michelleponders

Give me a revelation
Show me what to do
‘Cause I’ve been tryin’ to find my way
I haven’t got a clue

Tell me, should I stay here
Or do I need to move?
Give me a revelation
I’ve got nothing without You
I’ve got nothing without You Revelation by Third Day

We have all had a situation in our lives where we were at crossroads. We must figure out the next step to take that would be a benefit to all involved. I have been at that crossroad several times in my life. I’m guaranteed to have more crossroads before I leave this world. These crossroads can be easily decided as the answer is easy to find. It is just another day in life. Then there are those crossroads where there will be no easy answers and the effects of any choice taken will have ramifications that will be long lasting. One situation I know a lot about is ending a marriage as a Christ follower.

³ And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” ⁴ He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, ⁵ and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? ⁶ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:3-6

Marriage is a covenant and should never be taken lightly. God created marriage to be a lifetime commitment. In a time of no fault divorce, marriage is no longer sacred. I always believed marriage was sacred. I still believe it. I knew that biblical divorce was only allowed in the case of adultery. What I did not know was that there are other ways a marriage covenant can be broken. Addictions of any kind will break the marriage covenant. Abuse of any kind will break a marriage covenant.

²⁷ “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ ²⁸ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Matthew 5:27-28

¹⁸ Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. ¹⁹ Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:18-19

⁵ For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, ⁶ as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. ⁷ Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:5-7

In my case, my ex-husband had several addictions including porn, was abusive mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and was an adulterer. I prayed and asked God many times for my ex-husband to be repentant and to save my marriage. But God stayed silent. So I prayed for God to show me what my next step should be. I needed a revelation that only God could give. I was broken mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. My kids were hurt in ways they could not explain to me. I went to my pastor and talked to him about my hesitations and if I would be justified in a biblical divorce. I knew what the bible said about divorce. He told me yes because my husband was unrepentant, chose his porn and alcohol addiction over me and the kids and had made reconciliation impossible. My pastor also recommended that I take a class called Divorce Care. The class would help me with my questions, doubts and fears. I took the class and God opened my eyes to what was in front of me and how to deal with it so that my kids and I could finally work towards healing. So after 19 years, I filed for divorce. It was not an easy road. I did not always act in a godly way. I had to repent for my part in the demise of my marriage. And I needed to heal. God revealed to me what needed to be done so that I could heal and work to be the woman He called me to be. I got my revelation.

My first marriage is over 15 years behind me now. God sent me a man who loves me for me and accepts my kids. My husband is not perfect. But God knew that my husband needed a true helpmate and I needed a husband who would love me like Christ loved the church to get through this life. God brought two broken people together and made it beautiful.

There is so much more to my 1st marriage. And I will share as God leads me. But for now this small summary may be what someone needs to hear if they are at a crossroad of some sort and needs encouragement that God is faithful and when the time is right, you will receive His revelation for the direction to go. And Satan will no longer have a foothold for the decisions you have to make in this life.